'Tis the season for Santa, eggnog and, for those in serious relationships, proposals -— or pressure to propose.
"But demanding a propposal can backfire," caution Deb Costaldo, Ph.D., a relationship and marriage therapist and author of "Relationship Reboot."
Here, four real-life instances where that's exactly what happened:
Facebook 'official'
"Five years ago, my girlfriend at the time was talking marriage. We'd been together for two years and had lived together for a year, but hadn't come up with any date and I hadn't bought a ring. One day, at work, my phone began blowing up with texts congratulating me. I checked Facebook, and she'd switched her status to engaged. When I called her out on it, she said that since we had been talking about it, we might as well make it 'Facebook official' and that we'd sort through details later. What was even more uncomfortable was becoming "unengaged" on Facebook later that day, which caused everyone to assume we had broken up — which, within three months, was the case. The whole episode made it clear that there were a lot of cracks in our relationship." — Brian 33, sales analyst, Prospect Heights
Married to Mom?
"One day after work three years ago, I got a text from my girlfriend asking me to meet her at the swank King Cole Bar. It was the month of my birthday, so I figured it was some sort of pre-birthday surprise. When I get there, she's wasn't there — but her mom was. As soon as I sat down, her mother pulled a box from her purse, flipped the lid and showed me an engagement ring, explaining it was my girlfriend's grandmother's ring, and her mom felt it was time I had it. I felt like her mom was proposing to me. It was incredibly awkward — and, needless to say, I did not enjoy the 'celebratory' Champagne she insisted on ordering right after. The relationship limped along for another year — with a few check-ins from her mom about when I was 'ready for the rock' — before we realized it wasn't working." — Kev, 28, architect, Upper West Side
Mr. and Mrs. ?
"Four years ago, my then-girlfriend was really excited about our vacation to a swanky resort in Mexico. When we checked in, we were showered with Champagne and congratulations on our recent marriage. She confessed she'd called ahead to tell the resort it was our honeymoon in order to get better service, but it was pretty obvious she was angling for a proposal — and was really uncomfortable to always be referred to as 'Mr. and Mrs. X' when we were nowhere near that point in 'real' life. The vacation made it clear we were at very different points in where we saw 'us' going." — Sam, 40, graphic designer, Upper East Side
Pray for the 'happy' couple
"Last summer, my girlfriend and I were visiting her parents in the suburbs, and I agreed to go with them to church, even though I'm not religious. At one point, the minister was going over prayers for various members of the congregation and he suddenly said: 'Let us pray for Ashley (name has been changed) and Paul and their commitment to a future life together, and please guide them on their path toward engagement.' Later, Ashley swore she didn't know that was going to happen, but it was incredibly uncomfortable all the same. We broke up at the end of the summer for various reasons, but one of them was the fact that I was nowhere near as far down the 'path toward engagement' as she seemed to want me to be." — Paul, 27, engineer, Harlem
Anda sedang membaca artikel tentang
Marriage ultimatum horror stories
Dengan url
http://solusiagarsehat.blogspot.com/2014/12/marriage-ultimatum-horror-stories.html
Anda boleh menyebar luaskannya atau mengcopy paste-nya
Marriage ultimatum horror stories
namun jangan lupa untuk meletakkan link
Marriage ultimatum horror stories
sebagai sumbernya
0 komentar:
Posting Komentar